Touch Me Right: How to Build a Personalized Pleasure Map
- shaquenitagipson
- Apr 17
- 2 min read
When’s the last time you really asked yourself what feels good—like, really good?
"Please me, touch me, caress me!" — But here's the truth: you haven't done a thing unless you touch me right. So often we think we're giving pleasure simply by showing up with hands and lips, but the real magic happens when there's connection, intention, and curiosity.
Charles tells Keisha say, "But I am touching you!"
Yes, but are you connected to how I want to be touched? The difference lies in learning the rhythm of my body—pull here, go softer there, now harder, lick here, kiss there.
Why are we not providing direction. Guide you through what turns me on and lights me up, I’ll explain why it feels good to me. That’s the essence of pleasure mapping: a sensual, communicative journey of discovery where lovers explore each other's bodies and desires with intention.
As a Certified Sexologist I believe, it’s a delicious “show and tell” that deepens intimacy, breaks performance pressure, and makes connection irresistible. It encourages everyone to slow down, explore, ask, listen, and learn—
What is a Pleasure Map?
It’s a custom “map” of the areas on your body that respond to different types of touch: soft, firm, slow, teasing, warm, cool, and more. It helps you (and your partner) discover where pleasure lives in your body—because guess what? It’s not the same for everyone.
Start with Self-Exploration - You don’t need a partner to start mapping your pleasure.
Create a safe, private space — think soft lighting, cozy blanket, mirror optional.
Slow down your breath — relaxation boosts sensation.
Touch different areas of your body — arms, back, inner thighs, scalp, behind your knees.
Use a variety of touches — fingertips, palm, nails, feather, silk scarf, warm oil.
Notice your body’s responses — goosebumps, tingles, sighs, increased breath, emotional release.
Use a notebook or journal to write down what you feel and where. You’re literally decoding your pleasure blueprint.
💞 Final Thoughts
Pleasure is not just physical—it’s emotional, mental, and spiritual. Creating a Pleasure Map isn’t just about sex. It’s about learning your body’s needs, honoring your boundaries, and communicating your desires with confidence.
Want a printable Pleasure Mapping worksheet? 👀Drop your email @nitaloveexperience and I’ll send it straight to your inbox.
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